Matt and I were part of the original 13 - thirteen students
who began their high school careers at York School in Monterey a year early, as
eighth graders. By the time we graduated five years later, our class had
swelled to 32 with a few kids drifting in and out through the years. For the
most part, it didn't matter who had arrived in eighth grade, ninth grade, or
even transferred in as a junior. What it meant to me was that Matt and I shared
many, many classes. From English to Physics and Chemistry to Choir, he was
there. Most memorably, he and I were the only two in our class who slogged
through five years of Latin when only two were required. By the fifth year, we
began to bicker about what we should read. He wanted to read Pliny's war
histories while I longed to read Ovid's love poetry; our teacher, Mr. Sturch,
brokered a truce: two days a week I would read Ovid, two days a week Matt would
read Pliny, and one day a week we would read whatever Mr. Sturch wanted us to
read. Sounded reasonable.
Over the twenty years that have gone by since high school,
Matt and I lost touch. But as many of us have, we reconnected through social
media. And my family and I had the pleasure of brunching with Matt and his
girlfriend Kim when they were in town for a family function. Since then, Matt
followed my kitchen blog and commented on my recipes or my libation creations.
Just a couple of weeks ago, I penned a blogpost about National Absinthe Day and
the bottle I had picked up on my way home from work. "I think the St George
is close to the best American absinthe," he wrote. I wondered which one he
would have deemed the best, but I didn't ask. I should have because now I'll
never know.
Though I wouldn't characterize my relationship with Matt as
a close friendship, we were more than acquaintances. We were two people who had
shared five years at a very small school; shared tables over meals, both as
adolescents and adults; and shared a passion about good food and great drinks.
Reading through the remembrances written by Matt's friends, I see a picture of
a man who was giving and loving - one who constantly challenged the people
around him to be better, to learn more, and to seize the day.
For you, Matt, in Horace's words...
Tu ne quaesieris - scire nefas - quem mihi, quem tibi
finem di dederint, Leuconoë, nec Babylonios
temptaris numeros. Ut melius, quicquid erit, pati!
seu plures hiemes, seu tribuit Iuppiter ultimam,
quae nunc oppositis debilitat pumicibus mare
Tyrhenum. Sapias, vina liques, et spatio brevi
spem longam reseces. Dum loquimur, fugerit invida
aetas: carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero.
You are missed. Wherever you are, don't forget: Sapias,
vina liques (Be wise, strain the wine). Cheers!
—Camilla
